How to have a healthy relationship with food

I can’t tell you how often people ask me what my “diet” is. I cringe at the term. It feels 1. Restrictive 2. Miserable 3. Temporary.

The irony is that I spent so much of my life on a diet. The first time I went on a diet was in 7th grade, when I decided I would eat solely canned tuna fish (no joke). It lasted like a week.

I’m not a fan of eliminating foods from your diet.

Let alone entire food groups. Unless you’re willing to go without that food group for the rest of your life (i.e. vegetarians). If not, your plan is temporary, and so too will be the weight loss.

Fact: I eat mac and cheese multiple times a week.

It’s literally happiness in a bowl. I love it so much that in the past, when I thought about losing weight or eating healthier, it was alway the first thing I decided to eliminate. I might lose a little weight, but inevitably I’d cave and eat mac and cheese (hello Google employee buffet). Once I broke my diet, the “day was ruined” (sound familiar?). I’d attempt to start over the next day.

When something is off limits, it’s even more enticing to us.

We want what we can’t have (this goes for food, clothes, people…). If you’re allowed to eat anything, no food can have that power over you.

That’s why I don’t believe in labeling foods “good” or “bad.”

All foods can be good given the right place and time. Sweet potatoes are good because they’re good for your body. If you’re having an awful day and a cupcake feels good to your mind and soul, can’t that be good for you too?

By not banning mac and cheese, I know I can have it whenever I want, so it doesn’t control me.

I think all foods can be good. I try to eat what’s good for me.

Calm down, most of the time what’s good for me is healthy food. The same food you’ve been labeling as “good” already.


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If I eat a traditionally “bad” food, it’s probably because my soul needed it (be that for a celebration, a pick-me-up, a quick option). But because I frame it as “good” in my head, I don’t feel shame, guilt, anger, or pity towards myself. I don’t punish myself by continuing to eat more “bad” foods. I’m happy I had a good treat, and now I’m ready to get back to good healthy foods.

This philosophy has completely changed my relationship with food.

I’m at peace. I’m never in trouble with myself. Treating myself well is in my best self interest.

Over time (not a few weeks), my body looks and feels happy and healthy from being treated so “good.”

What’s your relationship with food? Fave foods? Thoughts on diets? Dish.

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  • SimiApril 2, 2018 - 9:22 pm

    This is all so important!ReplyCancel

  • ElliMay 16, 2018 - 8:39 pm

    This! Exactly this. I was just trying to explain my relationship with food to a friend the other day I could have written this! I feel this way because I want to be healthy and feel good for life. I never let myself feel guilty about food, I love healthy food and I love peanut butter cups and I love cream in my coffee and I love wine and we will all live happily ever after. ReplyCancel


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